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Experiencing Life, Loss and Pain of Letting Go

Life includes both holding on and letting go.

Loss is often associated with letting go. In these past weeks, my heart has ached for my friends, family, and colleagues that have lost their loved ones. I’m thinking of Judy, Steve, Laurene, Karen, Gail, Kathleen, Stacey and Deb who have laid to rest their father, mother, aunt, brother, son, and friends. As they’ve been covered in a blanket of sadness they’ve also found comfort and strength in sharing treasured stories with their community of friends and family.

Losing our loved ones is the most direct, visceral type of letting go. It is painful. Yet even when someone’s physical being is no longer with us, we’re able to remember and feel joy through the memories we have.





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So true, it takes a long time to get comfortable with the grief of losing a loved one. It never goes away it just gets easier to bare.

April 1, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterJill Robson

I lost my little bichon two weeks ago to a coyote attack. It was sudden, violent, and a complete shock. I miss her, and still expect her to be following around the house. Loss is difficult. BUT, I am thankful for the memories I have, and the painting my friend made of her face, so I'll always remember what a great dog she was. There is no way around loss, only through it.

April 1, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterSeana Turner

My condolences to those who suffer any kind of loss, specially those who lost a family member (pets included because they're family to me). As Seana says, the only way in through the loss, it's important to acknowledge all the stages of grieving and the feelings that come with it and process them. Grieving is caring, not just for the loved one I lost, also for myself because is the way I grow stronger and wise in life. Loss reminds me I'll be here just for a while so I need to make this life worth living.

April 1, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterNacho Eguiarte

Grief is a process.

@Jill- Grief isn't comfortable, but it is necessary. We all wear it differently and express it in many ways. And it takes the time we need to feel and process the loss. There are no rules or shoulds.

@Seana- My deepest sympathy for your loss. I can imagine how much you miss your dog. There is nothing quite like our four-legged family members, is there? How lovely that aside from all the memories you have, your friend made a painting of your bichon too. Sending extra love and hugs to you as you grieve your loss.

@Nacho- Yes. Grieving is a process with stages. As you said, death and loss reminds us of the fragility of life and the importance of making the most of the time we have while we're here.

April 1, 2015 | Registered CommenterLinda Samuels

My deepest sympathies to my friends here. Grief is difficult to embrace. It is difficult to fully understand both emotionally and physically.

Having experienced loss myself, I find that support is what's most important. Support in a kind word, a phone call or a card saying thinking of you can mean so much. Continued support, long after the loss, helps most. Friends, counselors and grief support groups are all wonderful support. Learning about the grief process helps you gain perspective too. Whatever ways you can find support for your loss help you through.

April 10, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterEllen Delap

Ellen- While we don't wish loss for anyone, it sounds like you've learned from first hand experience the positive value of having support systems in place to shoulder grief. The various types of support received or offered don't negate the grief, but they can bring comfort to the ones that are hurting.

April 10, 2015 | Registered CommenterLinda Samuels

Thanks for a thoughtful and empathetic post Linda.

April 11, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterLaurene Livesey Park

Laurene- You're welcome. Looking forward to seeing you in St. Louis so that I can give you a hug in person.

April 13, 2015 | Registered CommenterLinda Samuels

Seana, I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your dear doggy. We know they are only with us for a short time, but don't expect that time to end so suddenly. Losing a pet is no easier than losing a human member of the family.

April 23, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterJanet Barclay

Janet- Love the support you've offered Seana. Loss is loss no matter what form it comes in.

April 23, 2015 | Registered CommenterLinda Samuels

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