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Tuesday
Jul072015

How to Re-Motivate When Life Gets in the Way

What happens when you lose your groove? Do you know what I mean? You’ve established a habit. You’ve committed to a habit and then life gets in the way. How do you come back? How do you re-motivate yourself to return to that thing, that habit that you know and love?

As I sat to write my weekly post, I realized that this is exactly what I’ve experienced. It’s been three weeks since my last post. In the past five plus years, I’ve written one blog post per week with a few exceptions. It’s a habit I enjoy, find creative and have been committed to.

However, I’ve faced some challenges in these recent weeks that forced me to let go of certain commitments (as in writing the weekly blog post and engaging as actively on social media) so that I could handle others. Yes there was guilt. Yes there was disappointment. But it was also necessary to let go to make room for some emergencies and out of the ordinary challenges.

Here are some reminders I gave myself about motivation:

  • I can come back at any time.
  • I need to be flexible because there are only 24 hours in a day.
  • Some of those 24 hours are needed for sleep, which is essential for recharging.
  • If I’m exhausted, I won’t have the energy or motivation to do anything.
  • Return to your source for centering. Water and sun restore me.
  • If I’ve gotten way off track, take one tiny step towards that “project” or habit and it will feed my motivation.
  • Practice self-compassion.
  • Listen to your cheerleaders.
  • Just start.
  • Let go of perfect.

Needless to say, I’ve missed all of you. I’ve missed our conversations. I’m glad to be back after taking a break to tend to some family and professional challenges. I get that I expect a lot from myself. Does this sound familiar? I get that there’s a balance between doing and not doing. I’m working on that.

What about you? Does any of this resonate? Has life ever gotten in the way and thrown you off course? It’s temporary. What do you do to re-motivate? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Come join the conversation.

 

 

 

 

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Reader Comments (16)

Linda, I think you read my mind because I have been having a hard time getting back into a regular exercise routine after a shoulder injury left me with limitations on my movement for a good part of the last year and a half.
Now I am healed but having trouble getting back into the groove, and yes feeling guilty about it.
After reading your post I think I can now refocus because the first step back is all it takes to start the routine going again.

Thank you, and welcome back we have missed you.

July 7, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterJill Robson

We are glad to having you back.

Similar to Jill I've been struggling last two months with my habits, in my case controlling my weight and taking those long walks I used to as exercise. A blame two causes, first stress levels and second many commitments to fulfill. Fortunately both are now in control. I suppose my motivation should be my health and of course, a better fit of my clothes. Anyway I consider going back to the good habits the same way Nike tell us "just do it"

July 7, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterNacho Eguiarte

I've missed reading your posts, Linda. This one in particular speaks to all of us at one time or another. Everyone gets off track sometimes. We are, after all, human beings and not machines. Compassion and forgiveness need to be the words we use to speak to ourselves when we get a little lost.

July 7, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterDiane Quintana

Happy to hear from you, my friend! We certainly all can relate. Life is about balancing current priorities, and sometimes balancing is a tough act. Remembering that detours eventually come back to the main road is important for moving forward. Hope you are well!!

July 7, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterSeana Turner

You live it, feel it, figure it out and openly share. Recognized and appreciated, the wisdom and the self-compassion. We slow down and think, sometimes a rarity in daily life. Thank you for that.

July 7, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterSue West

I agree. I will force myself to work on my business tasks when my client meetings are slower. It seems to help. Thanks for sharing your experience.

July 7, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterSabrina Q.

What a wonderful group! Great to hear from all of you.

@Jill- So sorry to hear about your shoulder injury. It sounds like we have a similar understanding and experience about getting de-railed…the guilt, re-establishing routines. I'm glad the post helped you to take that "first step back." I missed you too.

@Nacho- Happy to be here! Life, our habits, our routines CAN be a struggle. We can be going along just fine and then BOOM…life intervenes…as you described. Glad to know that your stress level has lessened and that your time commitments feel more in balance. Good luck with your "just do it" philosophy. I'll be rooting for you.

@Diane- Thank you. I missed writing and communicating with all of you. The compassion and forgiveness piece is SO important. As you said, we all get "off track sometimes." We're human. Most appreciative of that reminder.

@Seana- Oh! I love what you said; "detours eventually come back to the main road…" Golden! Happy to be back in touch.

@Sue- Wow. Thank you for that support. The writing is a key part of the "processing" for me and the slowing down. It's one of the things I so missed in these past few weeks. Because not only does it give me a chance to "slow down and think," but it also connects others' experiences and wisdom to the topic focused on. That's one of my favorite parts…hearing from all of you.

@Sabrina- Glad you joined us. It sounds like you've got a good work flow.

July 7, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterLinda Samuels

Hi Stranger, kindred spirits once again. I find myself precisely on the 'same page' as you. After 5 years of posting weekly blogs religiously, I have recently come to terms that it is just not feasible...at this time. Like you, at first I was feeling badly and rather guilty. It was a habit that I carved out happily. But with life being crazy busy both professionally and personally, something had to give. So both my weekly blog and time spent on social media were the first to go.
In the past few months, I "compromised" with myself (the toughest CEO in town) and posted every other week.
Now, even that seems difficult to manage. With both my children getting married, planning all the celebratory events leading up to, and working full time, the only thing I MUST make time for is sleep!
I'm good with the mindful acceptance piece of all of this, and realize that this is just "now" and "later" might look different.

July 7, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterNancy Borg

Hi Linda, sorry about the challenges you've experienced but glad to see you're returning to blogging on your own terms. I applaud you for focusing on what is most important to you and for considering your own self care when it comes to "motivation."

Hugs and glad to have you back.

A

p.s. I've only posted once this summer and last week gave myself permission to take the entire summer off if need be. : )

July 7, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterAndrea Sharb

So glad to have you back. I am on your page. I too have needed to refocus my energies on other things leaving little time for social media and regular posting, etc. Plus summer beckons and I feel like this is my time to relax and rejuvenate and indulge. SO instead of feeling guilty I put a few parameters around my "absences". Allowing those breaks has actually helped me jump back in when necessary. thank you so much linda for putting what we are all feeling into words. xoxo

July 7, 2015 | Unregistered Commenterleslie josel

Nice party over here on the blog! So great to hear from you.

@Nancy- I've noticed your absence from social media, remembering how about a year ago you engaged in a digital blackout during one of your vacations. Something tells me that by doing that, you re-evaluated that balance between virtual and in-person social. It's sure wonderful to "hear" your voice again. And heartfelt congratulations on the upcoming weddings! Wow! Two at once. Nice work recognizing your sleep priority.

@Andrea- I appreciate your words of support. Love your bold declaration and "permission" to take the entire summer off. Between you, Nancy and Leslie's comment (all similar in a way) it's given me even more cause to re-think my own expectations. Perhaps I'll find a way to relax the parameters even more even if just for a short period of time.

@Leslie- Thank you for sharing your experience about the change in your engagement parameters. I realize by reading your words that more than ever, we can't go blindly about our days without questioning every so often. So sometimes stress is good because it gives us a clue (an indicator) that it's time to re-think. Love how you reduced feeling guilty by seting personal parameters. Fantastic!

July 8, 2015 | Registered CommenterLinda Samuels

What an amazing and supportive group! I love the conversations we have here thanks to Linda!

It always great to take a break. It brings us back refreshed and renewed. When a task becomes a "should" it loses meaning and taking a break from us helps us re-evaluate the value of the task too. I am so glad to hear all of you confirming this thought. It's good for us to shift to what is most valuable now and to create a new balance.

July 9, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterEllen Delap

Hi Ellen,

So great to have you with us. You always add so much to this group of fantastic sharers. Thank you for bringing forward that "should" word. A little bell ought to go off in our head every time we hear ourselves saying it….like a warning signal. It's certainly a big indicator for something to take a good look at.

Guess we're often in the state of shifting and re-evaluating. Perhaps sometimes more than others. Love the words of wisdom and wonderful support from this group. So happy that you're part of it.

July 9, 2015 | Registered CommenterLinda Samuels

Hello my friend,

You had me at the title. I'm sorry to hear about your challenges. Chin up; you got this!
I can relate. During the last three years, I've been caught in a roller coaster. Every time I get into a rhythm and I feel energized, something happens and I have to start all over again.

Now, the girls are getting ready to leave for college and, once again, I find myself unmotivated and on the edge of a change that I'm not sure I'm prepared for.

Professionally, I've made some key changes. I got a job after 17 years away from corporate. But I'm not ready to shut the doors on my coaching practice. There is an adjustment period I'm in the midst of and, frankly, I have no idea how it's all going to develop.

So, here I am, at the edge of inevitability. Self-acceptance and compassion towards self and others are in order. Thank you for reminding us.

Holding you in my thoughts and wishing you all the best.

July 14, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterYota Schneider

It sounds like quite a few of us have given ourselves permission to take blogging breaks! I took one last week myself, while I was on vacation. In the past, I'd have made sure I had something pre-scheduled for while I was off, but I noticed that online activity seems to be down right now as many people are either away on holidays or simply engaged in offline activities.

Once you've been blogging for many years, although it's still important to add new posts, you can relax a bit, knowing that your blog contains plenty of reading material for those who are seeking it.

July 17, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterJanet Barclay

The days are so full. Am happy to see more wonderful friends joining our conversation. Always lovely hearing from you both.

@Yota- You have certainly been on a personal roller coaster these past few years. And now more BIG news! You have a job? I want to hear more. After all the conversations we've had in the last few years, I can only imagine that it must be an amazing opportunity. You are the model of self-compassion and acceptance. I know the tools that you have will help you navigate the changing landscape.

@Janet- I really appreciate your perspective on so many things, but especially now about blogging. It's interesting, as you pointed out, how many of us are on a blogging break. And fascinating to hear the thought process we each have, the permission we give ourselves to adjust. I know that I need it now. Thank you for reminding me that there is a lot of content on my blog. Content that readers can go back to. It doesn't get old. It's still relevant. Conversations can be added to at any time.

I'm inspired by this conversation and the sharing everyone is doing. I'm reminded by each of you how important it is to listen to that inner voice, to re-adjust the plan as needed, to move forward, but not blindly, and to give ourselves a break.

Grateful for all of you.

July 20, 2015 | Registered CommenterLinda Samuels

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