Do you prefer to do everything yourself? There are many reasons why we don’t enlist help, even if we really need it. The next time you’re feeling stressed, stuck or overwhelmed, consider some of these ideas about the positives of asking for help.
- Not Just for Babies. We recently spent a summer weekend socializing two eight-week old puppies for Guiding Eyes. There was no question that these babies needed our help. However just because we become adults, it doesn’t mean that we stop needing assistance with certain things. Lose the guilt. Pay attention to times when getting help might be the solution.
- Return the Favor. Are you more comfortable giving than receiving help? When you ask people for help, it gives them the opportunity to “pay you back” in kind. They will feel better about receiving from you if they know you will in turn accept their help too.
- Just 24 Hours. We only have 24 hours a day. One-third of those hours are needed for sleeping. Enlisting help can free up your available time to focus on what’s most important. That might mean more time to spend with your family, friends, new goal or hobbies.
- Fun is Good. For those that enjoy the company of others, getting help for certain tasks, can make the mundane more fun and doable. Particularly if you tend to procrastinate, adding the social piece into the mix can be productive and motivating.
- Bring in the Professionals. Sometimes the type of help we need is beyond what our family or friends can offer. Or, we might be uncomfortable asking them for certain kinds of help. That’s why we hire others such as plumbers, electricians, accountants, therapists, coaches, doctors, lawyers or professional organizers. There are resources for finding all types of professionals. If you are organizationally challenged, you can find an organizer through NAPO (National Association of Professional Organizers), ICD (Institute on Challenging Disorganization), or Linda Samuels, founder of Oh, So Organized!
- Discover New Perspectives. We only know what we know. There are serendipities to enlisting help. When we invite someone in, we learn new ways of doing and looking at things. This is particularly useful when we are feeling stuck or don’t know which step to take next. Be open to the possibilities a fresh perspective can offer.
I’d love to hear your thoughts. Join in the conversation. What has been a positive “enlisting help” experience you’ve had?