Why is it that we often feel like we’re cheating if we ask for help? Why do we think that we have to or should be able to do everything ourselves? We think that getting help is a sign of weakness. I’m not sure why this happens and am occasionally guilty of feeling this way myself. Over time, I’ve discovered that enlisting help is a great way to learn, minimize frustration and boost our self-esteem.
Let’s look at getting organized. Many of my clients are organizationally challenged and have hired me to help them. At times, they’ve expressed their disappointment or guilt saying things like, “Why can’t I do this myself?” or “What’s wrong with me?” They feel that because others can organize on their own without any help and they can’t, that they have failed, are inadequate or have something intrinsically wrong with them. This simply is not true. None of us are good at everything. Thank goodness we have different skills and talents to share.
Before I published my book, The Other Side of Organized, I knew I needed the help of others with publishing expertise. I hired a book coach, editor, designer and printer. In addition, I sought advice from many other professionals and continue to do so. I still made mistakes along the way, but having a team of people to help guide and advise me, shortened the learning curve and minimized the severity of the errors. In addition, knowing that I had these professionals with me along the journey didn’t detract from but actually boosted my confidence.
Instead of fighting the desire for support, I embraced the concept of building a team of experts to help me grow and succeed.
So, the next time you find yourself struggling with getting organized or something else, consider reaching out for help. It isn’t cheating. This could be the best choice you make to end your frustration and bring you closer to your goals.
What help would be valuable right now to move you to the next step?